Something that i dont understand

Guys.

2 of my friends - Which they are a couple 2 years back.. now are back together again. During this period of time, what i saw from the guy was.. he went around having good times. And for the girl, she still miss him great time and bury herself with her work and school.

And now they are together again.

2 of my friends - They were couple for 5 years and after they broke off, within 3 months, the guy got himself a gf. The girl.. still misses and am single till now.

2 of my friends - They were couple for 3.5 years and after they broker off, within 6 months, the guy got himself a gf. In between this 6 months, he fooled around as well. The girl.. misses him for awhile but am single till now. She got no confident in having a r/s anymore.

2 of my friends - They were couple and after broke up, the guy went to enjoy himself and the poor girl just bury herself with work.

of course, i do have friends that is in the reverse situation. But what i can say is.. not many.

Tell me, is it that guys let go more than girls or it's how the brain works. Above all the guys and girls are not those typical player kind. They are those normal bgr, preparing to get marry kind. I cant understand why will the guys have such kind of actions -> going around having a good time. Is it because when they are with their gf, they cant club, they cant go out with their male friends and this is their rebellious act after they broke off?

Imagine the girls saw this kind of behavior of their ex bf.. What will the girls do? Suddenly wake up from their idea of burying themselves with work, started to go out and find new target? Isn't this going to cause a chaos situation?

I really dont understand why guys will have such a aftermath behavior. I have came a crossed a situation where i know the girl is crying at home and i bumped into the guy at the club, hugging and smoothing another girl, appearing drunk. This is the typical example when people say to a girl:"While you are crying and whining over why did you two breakup, he might be just having a good time now."

It really hurts me to see guys that fools around after they broke up. It's like:"Woot! Im free! Im sooo gonna get a girl, fool around and get laid." -> WTF. It's hurting 2 girls at the same time isnt it. Yes, i full understand that you guys are freeman now. You can do what you want. But.. dont you ever feel just a pinch of common sense that probably it is better to just do something more subtle first rather than going to a club and get a girl straight away? I cant say i am clean as well because there is rebound moments but thankfully i have woke up. Probably guys are the same. They just need to release awhile and then they will live like normal again. At least this is what ive been telling to myself.. if not, i doubt i will be about to trust guys anymore. I will sympathize the one that will be going after me if i lose the trust.

It's never easy to walk away from love. Even though if both of you has not been treating each other right.. still, both of you made each other smiled from the heart before. I guess love is never an easy chapter in life. It is the longest chapter that we need to learn till the day we die.